- Do not make assumptions about what
the affected person needs; ask them
- Be predictable; do not surprise them.
- Let the person with the disorder set
the pace for recovery.
- Find something positive in every
experience. If the affected person is only able to go partway to a particular
goal, such as a movie theatre or party, consider that an achievement rather
than a failure.
- Do not enable avoidance; negotiate
with the person with panic disorder to take one step forward when he or she
wants to avoid something.
- Do not sacrifice your own life and
- Do not panic when the person with the
- Remember that it is all right to be
anxious yourself; it is natural for you to be concerned and even worried about
the person with the panic disorder.
- Be patient and accepting, but do not
settle for the affected person being permanently disabled.
- Say: “You can do it no matter how you
feel. I am proud of you. Tell me what you need now. Breathe slow and low. Stay
in the present. It is not the place that is bothering you, it is the thought. I
know what you are feeling is painful, but it is not dangerous. You are
- Do not say: “Relax. Calm down. Do not
be anxious. Let me see if you can do this (i.e. setting up a test for the
affected person). You can fight this. What should we do next? Do not be
ridiculous. You have to stay. Do not
be a coward.”